date night
Grandma & Grumpa have decided to J once a month. Overnight. Yes, overnight, so that A and I can go out of a date or do things we used to do.What is funny is that J fits into our lifestyle so well right now, that we do most of the things we used to. There are few things we don't - bar hopping, staying up till bar time and sleeping in. But for the most part J comes along with us on outings. This sometimes makes me feel like an odd parent. Odd isn't the right term for it, really. I feel like I get "looks" from other parents when they realize that I have not stopped my life for J. Or rather - WE have not stopped what we used to do before starting a family. We have continued on. Granted we do not do nearly all the things we used to, but our social life really isn't that much different.
I have my reasons why and so does A. Me, I have seen what 20+ years of raising a family and neglecting your spouse can do to a marriage. It doesn't have to be that way and yes, there is a healthy balance between the relationships between the spouses and between the kids and spouses. Sure, I'd cancel a date to go out with friends if J has a dance recital in the near future, but I vow to myself to always make time for A. We need it. Our marriage needs it. We went through a spell of not having time for each other. It got ugly.
So next Saturday is date night. Dinner and a movie. Dinner is set; movie is up for debate. A wants to see Hostel. I would like to see Brokeback Mountain. Any suggestions?
posted by Stephanie @ 4:40:00 PM
5 Comments:
I Love that your marriage will remain a priority for you. I think this is VERY important! (but what do I know?) - Lindsey :)
Personally, I would pick Brokeback Mountain over Hostel. Hostel just plain old scares me waaaay too much. And Brokeback is right up my alley.
You inspire me, Steph. Jeff and I seriously need a date- and not a going to see a play at our theatre out of obligation to the friends involved kind of date. A real one. With a movie cuz I haven't been to the movies in so long.
I get paid this week. Time to arrange for a sitter!
Steph, I totally admire you for keeping with your life... and including J. I think it's awesome and that she will be a better rounded kid for it. YEA for date night!! It's so hard to keep a marriage going with a baby. I didn't realize that I would have to work so hard.
YAY for G&G!!! You are fortunate that they are close and will do that for you. I'd rather see BM than H, but I'm a wimp when it comes to horror movies. BM has gotten such incredibly good press. Hope it's as good as everyone says it is. HAVE A BLAST.
Glad I could inspire! I hope you all have fun reconnecting on your dates.
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